Dear Skin Bleacher

Si

Dear Skin Bleacher,

I don’t know your name or anything about you. I’m not here to judge, just to give you a life’s lesson in being proud of who you are.

It’s a shame you feel that by bleaching your skin, you now look prettier. Yes, I’m coming at you from a dark skinned point of view – because my skin tone is darker than your new and (un)improved self.

It’s a shame that you use the word ‘nigger’ to describe people who are darker than you. I don’t know you, as I said, and you seem young, so I don’t want to patronise or talk down to you – but let me ask you a question – is your mother dark skinned? Your grandmother? Auntie? Siblings? Friends? Nieces or cousins? If they are – are you saying that they are all ‘niggers’ too? Do you refer to darker skinned members of your family and people you know in that way? To their faces? I can’t imagine you do.

Do you feel empowered and beautiful now that you have altered your appearance? You can go out into the world and conquer it? Be that young woman you now feel that you can be? Skin Bleacher – if that had to all come because you are now ‘light-skinned’ I have to break it down to you because you’re acting like the skin has bleached you white. Which you are not. It appears that you think light (or white) is better? Whether you are black. Light, dark, caramel, coffee, cocoa, mocha – you are black. Black – whatever the tone – is beautiful. Men see that too. I had to bring that up because it seems that having male attention is important to you, which is fine. But a man doesn’t fall in love with your pale skin and maybe the attention that you are putting to your appearance is attracting the wrong sort of man. Then you’ve got it all wrong. Maybe you need to bleach the inside of you and get rid of the impurities there first. Do you know what constant bleaching to the skin does? When your skin gets red raw and your knuckles are black. And what about the babies you may have one day? Of course, they may have a white or light-skinned father. And for you – I hope there’ll be no throw-backs and your babies come out darker anyway. Bleaching does not filter into your melanin.

Skin bleacher – be you. Go out into the world and make a difference. I’m one hundred percent certain Sojourner Truth, Harriet Tubman and Rosa Parks and the likes, didn’t do what they did so we can be light skinned. I’m sure it was because of equality, freedom and choice, no matter the skin tone.

So Skin Bleacher – be confident in the skin that you were meant to have. You will have younger people around you see you and think that what you are showing them or telling them is right. You are the next generation and I’m sure that your children and your friends’ children don’t want to grow up knowing that you once described darker skinned people as – well, you get what I’m saying.

From a Black Woman Who Chooses to Live the Life of Freedom Women Before Her Sacrificed Themselves For.

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Comments

  • Michael

    Written on March 19, 2015

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    Im so proud to call you my friend titi and all my other black friends. The depth of your beauty comes from within, not only are black women beautiful to look at but the character and personality add the extra dimension.

    I pray that skin bleachers around the world wake up to that realisation and fix themselves inside before they “fix” the outside.

    Keep on going Titi! You’re an inspiration.

  • Bukola Garry

    Written on March 19, 2015

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    This is a really insightful and well thought out response. It’s a shame that ‘skin bleacher’ views dark skin as dirty and her lack of education has caused her to do such an ignorant act that unfortunately won’t give her the acceptance she’s looking for.

  • Michael P

    Written on March 19, 2015

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    I am so proud to call you my friend Titi! I believe that anyone can be beautiful to look at, but the depth of their beauty comes from within, namely in character and personality. I think that black women are beautiful and its a shame to me that this skin bleacher feels the need to “fix” her outside when it’s probably the inside she needs to focus on.

    I’m so glad you are raising questions and addressing these issues. Keep on going titi. You’re an inspiration!

  • Leonie Brown

    Written on March 20, 2015

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    This is a great response. It’s a shame but I’m sure there are many more girls who think this way. It’s so so a shame that that the saying “be yourself” is now seen as just a common cliché that young women and men fail to take seriously. This is down to a lack of education and confidence . Let’s hope that your response stops other beautiful black women from bleaching their skin.

  • MNK

    Written on April 8, 2015

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    I think Titi shows how self-hate and even racism continues and not so much in the form Nelson M, Martin LK, Rosa P, Olaudah E and others had to face but in a more subtle way against one’s person a lot of the time.

    Kanye West touches on this in his latest interview with Zane Lowe also eg. we feel compelled to get those new shoes, jacket, smart phone because we want to fill some void inside which never gets filled by these things ultimately so we hate ourselves for this.

    Being real, I think girls who think they should go about changing their skin colour and even structural features – this goes for guys too( Michael J and others irrespective of alleged skin conditions #shotsfired haha), are going for what they see as ‘superior’ or ‘the best’ in western society. And whilst I am aware that this does not represent the entire world as things are slightly different for other nations, I believe it’s prevalent in India, South America, Africa and other parts of the world based on my own experiences with people from those nations that I personally know.

    For example if you go back to slave times, cerca 150 years ago, owners and leaders of plantations were white and the workers/slaves were black or some shade of it. Based on my own research of the history of the Portuguese invading Brazil and similar invasions which took place in S.America 500+ years ago, I think that slave masters would often sexually exploit black female slaves of which the result would be a mixed race child (this partly explains the endless mixes of origins any one black person might have also) who would then share in the household of the white slave masters and therefore have more privileges sometimes.

    This child and it’s mother would often be taken care of a little bit extra and sometimes enjoy a higher standard of living, albeit still as slaves sometimes, which meant they were made ‘different’ from everyone else(other slaves in this case). For some slaves looking at this situation from the outside in – they would come to the conclusion that the extra privileges/higher standard of living are due to the child being ‘different’ and noticing that it has a lighter complexion and then conclude that this is why they are enjoying a better standard of life which is an obvious confusion.
    However, I believe that since more slaves started to think this – it became a self perpetuating truth and helped feuled this confusion we have today that having lighter skin makes any difference which is rubbish in my opinion as Titi makes clear.
    From here you can probably see why over the generations people have almost felt compelled to think themselves worst off in some cases depending on their mindset in comparison to someone of a lighter complexion if they are darker.

    Disclaimer: these are my own personal imaginations/opinions and are by no means the absolute facts but I do think that there is some truth somewhere in the above.

    Because of this fact, some would say you can’t blame these people for wanting to look like the ‘leaders’ who were slave owners mostly or their descendants albeit more than 150+ years ago but I think it comes back to these people not loving themselves enough and embracing the fact they don’t have to be lead by the latest celebrity, singer or even playground bully who has different skin to them.

    I think that the same issues with skin colour are still challenges in nations such as India and other nations outside of the west also as North Indians are often seen as the ‘higher’ class to some people in comparison to those in the South where the weather is more tropical i.e. hotter and where skin complexions are darker.
    Same goes for some parts of Africa and other nations i.e. why do some countries in Africa think they are not African eg some Egyptians etc?

    Anyway, we can go on and on for days here but as Titi so eloquently puts it people who are bleaching or who are of a lighter complexion with the above mindset need to let go of this outdated thinking and respect everyone’s opinion/points of view/position in society regardless of whether their ‘skin tone is darker than your new and (un)improved self.’.

    The truth is that we are all equal.
    That’s my two pennies 🙂

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